WhySoMillennial on Identity

I've never liked answering the question: "What do you do?" It makes no sense, because I worked hard to become a lawyer, and I like my job, but admitting to it to strangers has always made me feel uncomfortable. Maybe it's the inevitable follow up scorn (for the profession), excitement (for the prospect of free …

Feedback and Feels

I'm always honoured when other writers ask me to read or edit their work. As a writer myself, I know exactly the time, energy, and willpower that went into a manuscript. I also know how it feels to have someone tear it to shreds. When the time comes to give feedback, part of me is …

Goals, Goals, Goals

I started this blog last November to help motivate me to write my second novel, which I'd just started. Spending some time chronicling my journey and getting my fingers on the keyboard when my #WIP wasn't speaking to me DID help motivate me, but more importantly, it connected me to a community of writers. I …

WhySoMillennial on Aging

That's right. I'm aging. I'll admit it. Tomorrow is my thirty-FOURTH birthday, meaning I'll be undeniably in my mid-thirties. Besides finding this unacceptable given my current state of adolescent behaviour, I've been reflecting on some of my key accomplishments and failures. Accomplishment: Some letters after this old name of mine. I don't think it's a …

Finding Your People

I started this blog last November partly as an accountability check for my writing. I had begun drafting my second novel and was having trouble finding the motivation to work on it regularly; finding it difficult to sit down in front of my computer each day. My rule was that if I didn't get to …

Split Personality Book Club: The Power by Naomi Alderman

In case you missed the first installment of Split Personality Book Club (SPBC for short), check out my last blog post here for an introduction to the characters. This evening, Sheila, Cindy, Farah, Suzanna, and Ray all gather at Farah's highrise apartment. Farah doesn't believe in traditional furniture, so everyone is awkwardly perched on silk …

Split Personality Book Club

There are a lot of people who review books online, but none quite like me. My personalities rarely agree, except on one thing: there’s nothing like opening a crisp new book. Before I get started, some introductions: Sheila - librarian, type A, constantly bites her lower lip, wears cardigans and glasses on a fine gold …

WhySoMillennial on Self Doubt

Wow, self doubt is a powerful thing. It can eat up your free time and spoil your accomplishments. It's the internal troll (in both the traditional and colloquial sense) that lives under your mental bridge. I wonder what it's like to be a person without it; who doesn't have a voice saying "you can't do …

WhySoMillennial on Fear

What's the difference between fear and anxiety? I've been pondering that lately (mainly because my anxiety has been in overdrive since before the holidays) and I think I can explain it this way: My anxiety is an overreaction to negative thoughts. For me, it can help to mentally play out the hypothetical and think about …

WhySoMillennial on Friendship

"How extra should I dress this eve?", is the question I just answered in one of my many group chats. We're in our 30's now, so of course I said to be responsible. Avoid wearing anything you'd care to lose/ruin with vomit. Being home for the holidays is a special time to catch up with …